Tuesday, February 20, 2007

Roving Eyes & Heartaches

My wife’s roving eye caught this article in ‘Woman’s Era’ and she asked me read it out.

First things first, this is not any candid admission of any sort. She just asked me to read it, that’s all. Don’t read more meaning into this, or let your imagination run wild and think that it applies to me. It may or may not be. That’s definitely not the point of discussion here.

Let me not get into the reasons cited by the author as what are the likely reasons for a husband having a roving eye. That will become psychoanalysis then. Let me tell you what the author poses as questions & prescribes as solution to the all the wife’s.

X Have you started taking your husband for granted?
X If you have, try to look sexier & attractive.
X Try and rekindle the romance in your married life.
X Dress well.
X Try to look pretty.
X Give exclusive time to your partner.
X Speak softly & in a loving manner.
X Don’t nag.
X If he ogles at particular kind of women, take note of it and emulate her good points.

Now, has this author ever been married? Does she even understand what she suggests? Mates, this doesn’t happen in marriage. This can only be a fairy tale.

Marriage is real stuff, not a script. Can you imagine spouses talking to each other softly & in a loving manner? That too when you are pre-occupied with jobs, mortgages, children, model exams, unnecessary commitments??

And is someone even bothered about this trivia? These woman’s magazines should be the first to be banned if we want to reach anywhere closer to emancipation and equality for women. This is real sick stuff, advising women about how to look attractive. Try & emulate good points of the ones being ogled I believe. My foot. There can be nothing more demeaning to a wife.

I will tell you what, if he ogles at other women, you just ogle at other men. Maybe the husband of the one that is being ogled!

Then a man’s magazine can write about how men should try & look attractive and emulate good points. Haha.

I am even more pissed about the fact this damn author also starts the article with a name of a guy that is mine. :-X

4 comments:

sidwho? said...

My God!! this kind of crap is actually printed and read?? the prescription given to the women to attarct their husbands!! Most of these sound like emnating froma Taliban trying hard to re-model his beliefs in a modern mould. " Womens' era " surely believes in taking women back to vistorian era. If my wife speaks softly and nicely , I will suspect she has a boyfriend hidden somewhere. And she doesnt need to TRY & LOOK pretty.
I am sure this magazine also runs features on home-made aphrodisiac for women to have better sexlife, with turtle blood and bull's semen as ingredients!!

Shrikanth said...

Haha, you bet. I felt this was the most derogatory piece I have read on women. Supposedly advising them though? Can you believe it ??

supersubra said...

Probably in future when one can morph (physical as well as behavioural) him/herself to any shape (this has been done so many times in puranas -taking the shape of another person -story of akalya-indira) the need for this ogling or desire itself will end once for all.

Right now this sort of morphing otherwise called camouflaging is existing among some life forms.

http://www.liverpoolmuseums.org.uk/nof/fish/event1_2.html

supersubra said...

Yesterday I saw a discovery channel program where some kind of fish in coral reef areas are really morphing their physical shape to camouflage them self from predators.